The way we sit, stand, smile, move can say a lot about our character.
People judge you based primarily on the signals that your body moves, and only then on what you say.
The body never cheats. If something hurts you, or you notice a familiar person, the body always gives certain signals.
Studying your own habits, gestures and various body movements is comparable to studying a thick encyclopedia about yourself.
Experts say that about 90% of all communication is non-verbal, that is, communication without words. Only 7% of human attention goes to the analysis of the words spoken by the interlocutor.
55% of communication occurs through body language and 38% through voice tone. This explains why even the most savvy and well-read people cannot always clearly explain certain things in words, and resort to gestures.
Here are some messages your body can convey to people around you:
How open is your upper body?
The space you leave open in front of your upper body tells you how confident you are and how open you are to your surroundings. Crossing your arms or squeezing the straps of your purse indicates that you are in defensive mode.
You can be confident in your ideas and words, but your body language suggests a more primitive sense of security that comes from having to defend yourself against possible attacks. Children who grew up in difficult conditions, where they had to protect their emotions and their "I" from everything that happened around them, often cross their arms over their chest.
Legs cannot lie, experts say. Body language professionals say your feet are the most honest parts of your body. Because we have depended on them for thousands of years of evolution (they helped to escape, hide, or attack in order to survive), our legs speak of how we feel about the person who enters our personal space.
How do you hold your hands?
Arms crossed suggests that you are not very open to the thoughts and opinions of others. In the case of personal relationships, this suggests that you cannot feel what your partner or loved one is feeling. This may be why your partner often reproaches you for not listening to him / her.
When you listen carefully to a coworker's words or share your thoughts with the person, remember how you hold your arms and legs. You can say “Great idea, ” but your crossed arms will say that you don't understand what this is about yet.
If you constantly notice this hand position, then you are closed to new ideas and opinions.
However, if you often keep your hands at your sides or simply put them down, this suggests that you are not afraid of new points of view and are emotionally charged to talk.
How much free space do you need?
Whether it's work, lunch with friends, or the elevator ride, keep track of how much space you need. Do you slouch, keep your arms and legs as close to each other as possible to take up as little space as possible?
Or, on the contrary, maybe it is convenient for you when there is a lot of free space around you, there is something to do with your arms and legs, and you can even gesture to emphasize your point of view? This behavior suggests that you have a strong self-esteem and are not afraid to be yourself. How much space you occupy can vary depending on the location and the people you work with.
Your eyes wrinkle with smile and laughter
Anyone can fake a smile, but the eyes betray everything. Body language studies show that genuine smiles reach the eyes and cause wrinkles.
People often use a smile to hide their real emotions. They may not be going to deceive you, just their smile helps them cope with the emotions that they are experiencing, but do not want to show. It can be fear, nervousness, anger, or sadness.
Do you often raise your eyebrows?
Unlike what you unconsciously believe, raised eyebrows indicate discomfort and uncertainty. Three emotions can make your eyebrows rise: surprise, fear, and anxiety. Throughout the day, observe how often your eyebrows are dancing up and down, and who or what makes them rise.
If you do not have many events during the day, but you still raise your eyebrows often, this indicates some concern on your part, as well as that you are having a hard time coping with difficulties.
Do you repeat other people's sign language?
During a long conversation with a friend or loved one, how often do you find yourself standing in the same position as the other person?
For example, if a friend tells you about a problem and leans to the right to emphasize some of his thoughts, you can tilt your head in the same direction. This indicates that you are listening to the person carefully.
Or if your friend laughs and tilts his head back a little, you repeat the same movement - this is called mirroring.
How often do you nod during a conversation?
Nodding indicates that you are listening carefully to the other person. However, if you nod too often, then the opposite is more likely - you practically do not listen to the person, but rather are worried about how you will appear in front of your interlocutor. If you nod a lot, you may be looking for approval.
By this you seem to be informing: “Listen, I perfectly understand what you want to say, and I am ready to fulfill any of your requests. Believe me".