Many people know that there are certain rules that a "real lady" must follow. But most of these rules in practice turn out to be absurd and sometimes sexist. So is it worth sticking to them?
Strangest Etiquette Rules
Almost everyone has seen old films in which young girls try not to drop a stack of books on their heads in order to maintain the correct posture. But there are also more incomprehensible rules, about which few people now remember. For example, a real lady should not put her bag on her lap or wear more than thirteen pieces of jewelry. Such rules seem extremely strange in the modern world, so hardly anyone follows them. But no matter what, most of the old-fashioned rules still remain.
Echoes of the Past
In ancient China, there were norms of behavior "li" in which life was spelled out to the smallest detail. For example, men had to walk exclusively on the right side of the street, and women on the left. Fortunately, these rules have not survived to this day. But, like a couple of hundred years ago, for example, it is considered correct if a man opens a door for a woman. Few people know where these rules come from. The custom of opening the door to a lady dates back to the days when women wore fluffy dresses. Thus, the man helped the woman, since it was not easy to go through the doorway in such an outfit. However, in our time, a woman can be offended by such a gesture, because it can be interpreted as an admission of her lack of independence.
Many of the old rules of etiquette that are still observed today are in fact remnants of discrimination against women in the past. After all, before a woman was viewed not as an independent and self-sufficient person, but only as a man's traveler - in society she had to behave quietly, communicate only with women. Since then, the manner of giving the man the floor first has remained. But from one old custom, an attitude towards a woman as a whole was formed.
Etiquette and selection
Both in Russia and in Europe, it was customary to marry girls at a very young age. They were looking for a bridegroom for a girl, presenting her as a kind of commodity: as a rule, girls got acquainted with potential suitors just at social events. Until the age of 25, it was considered good form not to allow a girl to go out into the world without being accompanied by relatives or guardians. After reaching this age, if the girl had not been selected for a groom, she could already act at her own discretion. A similar tradition has survived to this day, for example, in the Caucasus and the Middle East.
Why are outdated regulations being followed?
In most cases, this is a matter of habit. In theory, in order for etiquette not to discriminate against anyone, it should not have had such rules initially. Now, the violation of even very offensive norms will be perceived not as a struggle for rights, but as bad manners. [Left] [/ left]