Hurrah! You have finally met an attractive man. He is smart, strong, gentle, you are interested in together. But wait, are you sure this is all reality and not pleasing self-deception? How do you know what is really on your way? We know several ways.
IS HE INTERESTED WHO CALLED YOU?
If yes, then you are dealing with a "controller", warns Igor Nezovibatko, the leader of training on relationships. Make it clear that this is your own business, and firmly hold the boundaries for at least the first six months.
SEE HOW HE TALKS WITH OTHERS
If he is rude to the waitress, he can be rude to you too. Doesn't help retired parents? Will he take responsibility for his wife and child? By the way, about children. Talking to them is the best indicator of patience and empathy.
WHAT DOES HE LOVE IN LIFE?
Ask this question and find out what the “personal ideology” of your chosen one is, advises psychologist and coach Artur Vafin. If a man begins by talking about the advantages of cats over dogs, do not count on a deep spiritual connection. Did you mention human relationships? Fine! Take him to a conversation about women ("Everyone is so different and beautiful, right?"). It may turn out that he advocates polygamy.
LOOK UNDER THE HOOD OF HIS CAR
It sounds strange, but a man who is indifferent to his car never
will not understand why a frying pan is not a gift at all, and will not be attentive to you.
ASK HIM TO PAY FOR YOUR FRIENDS
No, we also understand that this is an abnormal situation: your companion is not obliged to sponsor everyone who gathered at your table. In principle, he should not contain you either, but then how to agree.
But after such a request, it will become clear whether a person knows how to save face and what he will do if something does not go according to his life plan.
WHAT DOES HE SPEND MONEY FOR?
Formulate the question in this way and you will kill two birds with one stone: you will learn about the relationship of the chosen one to finances and about his life priorities. Also observe how a man spends money on parents, friends, colleagues and how he behaves in the store. The squander piles delicacies into the cart, and the miser walks with a calculator and chases stock items.
GO WITH HIM TO MELODRAMA
He may agree out of politeness, but in two hours his emotions no, no, yes, they will manifest. So what, the companion sits with a stone face for the entire session, or is he carried away and empathizes with the characters?
WHAT IS HE DREAMING ABOUT?
The beauty of this question is that there cannot be a socially approved answer. A man will paint a picture of his future, and you will understand how much it coincides with yours.