Surely each of us has a story when some acquaintance at the first meeting seemed to us an unpleasant person, but later we realized that this is one of the most interesting people.
In most cases, we have a few seconds for the person to want to spend more time with you.
In this case, the smallest details play a role, from your name to your scent.
Here are some of the traits and behaviors that can make people around you dislike you, according to various scientific studies.
First impression of a person
1. Too many photos on social networks.
If you are the type of people who share pictures of your honeymoon, graduation, your kids, and more, it might be time for you to stop.
Having a lot of photos on social media can hurt your relationship. Other people, with the exception of relatives and close friends, do not get along well with those who constantly share their photos.
Also, friends don't like having a lot of family photos, and relatives don't like having a lot of friends' photos.
2. Too many or too few friends on social networks.
In a 2008 study, researchers asked students to look at fake Facebook profiles and decide how much they liked them.
The results showed that if you want to please others, the middle ground is having around 300 friends. The attractiveness rating was low if the user had less than 100 and more than 300 friends.
Having more than 300 friends can be off-putting, as a person seems too focused on social media, signing up friends out of desperation rather than popularity, the authors say.
3. When you tell something very personal at the beginning of a relationship.
In general, people feel sympathy for each other after sharing secrets. What's more, it's one of the best ways to make friends as an adult.
However, psychologists warn that when you declassify something very intimate (for example, that your sister is having an affair on the side) at the beginning of dating, it can give you the impression of being a reliable person.
The key is the right amount of personal information that you share. So, for example, if you talk about your hobbies or favorite childhood memories, then you are considered a friendlier and more pleasant person.
4. When you ask questions without revealing anything about yourself.
It is worth mentioning that when you share personal information with someone, it is important that it is mutual. Usually, people are less attracted to those who don't reciprocate after they reveal something personal about themselves.
So during the experiment, the participants during a conversation disclosed information about themselves alternately, or in turn talked about themselves for 12 minutes, while the other interlocutor listened. And, as you might guess, the participants from the first group liked each other more.
5. When you post a zoomed-in profile photo.
If your photo is taken in close-up on social media, you'd better change it.
According to a study by the California Institute of Technology, faces photographed at a distance of 45 cm are considered less attractive, untrustworthy, and less competent than those photographed at a distance of 135 cm.
Forming the first impression
6. When you hide your emotions.
If you want to please others, you better show your true emotions rather than try to hide them.
The thing is that we are not looking for close relationships indiscriminately, but tend to choose people who will reciprocate us. If we see that a person is hiding their emotions, then we can take this as a sign of a lack of interest in issues such as intimacy, support and interaction.
7. When you are being too nice.
Logically, the more kind and disinterested you behave, the more people love you. However, research suggests otherwise.
If you are being too kind, others will become suspicious of you and believe that you have some ulterior motive for this behavior.
8. Modest bragging.
To impress their friends or potential employers, many people hide bragging behind self-criticism, which can turn off others.
So, in an experiment, scientists asked students to write how they would answer the question about the biggest weakness in a job interview. As a result, most of the participants tried to brag modestly.
At the same time, employers said they would rather hire those who were honest. Such people said phrases like: "I am not very collected" or "Sometimes I overreact to situations."
When it comes to job interviews, it's best to talk about weaknesses that aren't directly related to your job, such as not liking public speaking if you're looking for writing.
9. Too nervous behavior.
Scientists claim that the smell of sweat when we are nervous can subconsciously influence your personality's judgment.
For example, in a 2013 study, participants watched videos of women in everyday situations in the office or while caring for a child. In addition, they were asked to sniff clothes with different types of sweat: sweat from exercise, sweat from stress, and sweat from stress disguised with deodorant.
Participants rated the women in the videos as less confident, less knowledgeable, and untrustworthy when they smelled sweat from stress.
10. When you are not smiling.
When you meet new people, it can be difficult to smile all the time. However, you might want to try.
When participants were asked to rate photographs of women in closed and open poses, smiling or not smiling, the woman with a smile, regardless of the pose, was always more sympathetic.
Even when people communicate online, they feel great sympathy for those who have a smile on their avatars.
11. When you act like you don't like someone.
When we think we like someone, we usually like that person too.
Scientists have found that when we expect a person to accept us, we treat him warmer, This significantly increases the chances that he will actually like us. So, even if you are not sure about the other person's attitude towards you, act as if you like him, and it is likely that the relationship will be mutual.
12. Difficult to pronounce surname.
The study showed that people with complex surnames are perceived by many negatively.
Participants were asked to read an article about a man with a fairly easy-to-pronounce last name (Lazaridis and Paradowska), while others read about a man with a complex last name (Vougiouklakis and Leszczynska).
Participants considered a person with a simpler last name more suitable for the position.
13. Bragging about connections.
You may be anxious to mention a famous person you studied with in order to impress the other person. But this is not entirely the right tactic.
Research has shown that bragging about your acquaintance with prominent people leads to you being perceived as a less pleasant and competent person.
This is partly due to the fact that this behavior is regarded as a kind of manipulation.