32 conclusions by the age of 32, to which everyone comes in our life - the only difference is how quickly.
1. It's scary for everyone. And handsome, and talented, and smart, and lucky. Start new. Get out of the familiar circle. To risk. Do something that you are not used to yet. Scared for loved ones. For the cause. For his life, if he squeezes. And much more. The fear will continue.
No matter how much experience, practice, confidence, recognition, money, talent, but each time swinging to new heights, each time going on stage, each time turning around at loved ones - to one degree or another there will be fear. This is normal. This means that you are still alive. And that means you need to go forward. Through fear. Instead of trying to get rid of it completely.
2. Life without change does not exist. Stability is illusory. We are constantly on the move. We are constantly changing externally and internally, these processes do not stop for a second. And there are even a lot of seconds as a measure of measurement. The processes are going on every moment. It's a lot of seconds. Question: "To change or not to change?" a sane person cannot stand. Only: "Do I have anything to do with these changes and to what extent?"
3. Fast is slow, but without interruption. No need to fast, intense, cool, very powerful. Just enough regularly. The most important thing is to keep the rhythm. Little by little, but with a stable consistency. And after a while, from the outside, it will look like fast, intense, cool and very powerful.
4. Create more than consume. Otherwise, that's it. The hopeless life of the consumer, ornate intertwining into a meaningful conclusion: "Everything is good, but nothing good." A person has to do something. Voluntarily and lovingly. This is the formula for his mental health. And the bonus, which is curious, is the only way to enjoy consumption that will not destroy it. This process can be considered a healthy mental metabolism.
5. Today is what you did and thought yesterday, and tomorrow is what you do and think today. This phrase should be repeated like a mantra until it comes to the conclusion that your parents have nothing to do with your adult problems. In any case, it is not their fault that there is no one to change the plate in your head, which has stuck since childhood.
6. There are no guarantees. The basic rule of the universe, through which you need to pass all your decisions and plans.
7. The era of secret knowledge that can change something is over. The era of information hygiene has arrived. For five years now, knowledge has not been the main currency in the matter of achievements and any meaningful existence. The Internet has devalued them with its accessibility. Concentration replaced. The ability to keep your attention on the task and not spill interest is who rules. And this skill is in direct proportion to the information noise that is everywhere today. The more verbal rubbish around, the weaker the focus. The more other people's thoughts, the quieter your own voice. Constant presence in the Internet stream atrophies the ability to self-awareness, replacing the essence with concepts of what it is.
8. Joy and pleasure are not the same thing. We never get the joy of a chocolate cake, a glass of wine, or a cigarette. We don't get joy from new boots or perfume. It is important to call a spade a spade - we have fun. And here is a completely different chemistry. The nature of this feeling is very fleeting and inextricably linked with the subsequent dissatisfaction, boredom, satiety and desire for a new portion. It is not scary to deny yourself pleasures, it is scary not to know joy.
9. Suffering exists. Buddha was right after all. Suffering exists. Everyone suffers. And those who have nothing, and those who have everything. And whoever does not suffer at this moment will go into pain the next, as soon as the dollar rate changes, a terrorist attack will take place, will receive in response that they do not like him, will see a dirty entrance, will not wait for a response to a message, will not receive money or in any other way the breath of the breeze. Suffering exists. And always for no reason, if you remember the finale of any human being.
10. Not everyone can be happy. Can everyone be happy? Yes of course! But that's in theory. In practice, only those who have access to the discipline of the mind can be stably happy, that is, calm, balanced, blissful, if you like. Whose mind is able (trained) not to twitch on all the numerous reasons that surround it. Who can remain in the balance of joy not only in calm, but also in a burst of unpleasant situations. Otherwise, all the endless reasons from scratching your car will throw you into pain, irritation and anxiety. And this is just some kind of machine, but there are also more serious situations. Such a hunted mind that reacts to any incident can be called happy only in the status of Instagram.
11. Joy is equilibrium of the mind. Tell me that about 5 years ago, I would have twisted it at my temple. When day and night you dream of a big bright love, a friendly family, an interesting profitable business, the opportunity to work for yourself and not for another, a life full of travels, it seems that, after all, you have some idea of joy, at least, about your own. Yes, you are now largely not satisfied, but something can drive you crazy, but you are suffering. So this is understandable. But you know what to strive for. You know where your tangible enduring joy is, looking at your so alluring dreams. Joy is a state of complete equilibrium peace of mind, which is achieved when liberating from the blind (automatic) reactions of this very mind. The healthy, perhaps only, way to cognize (and develop) such a state in adulthood is through deep observation meditation.
12. Fruit is not acidic but alkaline food. Scientifically, fresh ripe fruits and almost all vegetables cause an alkaline reaction in the body and help to neutralize excess acid in it, while starch, sugar, meat products, fats, oils, dairy products, on the contrary, acidify the body. The full description is in the table of N. Walker and R. Pope, which is available through Google.
13. “My body knows what is best for it” is one of the most insidious traps of the mind. The body of an alcoholic wants to drink, the body of a smoker wants a cigarette, our body is longing for chocolate and fries. What "knows best" everyone is talking about? Just as the mind lives by automatic reactions, preventing a person from making elementary shifts in his life, so the body obeys habits and chaotic impulses of lust.
14. Nutrition affects not only our body, but also our mind. Like alcohol, which noticeably alters our consciousness, dulling it, some foods have a similar effect, but in a less pronounced and often unconscious form. Eating can slow and defocus the head, weakening control, the power of awareness, and clarity of perception. A slightly “blurred” state becomes the level of the norm, allowing a person to forget what lightness and clarity really mean. The most "free" foods are fresh vegetables and fruits, as well as plant foods and grains, prepared in a simple way with a minimum of oil, seasonings and salt.
15. You need so much money not to think about it. Money does not solve the main issue of humanity - it does not make its owner happy. But the ability not to think about them, at least in everyday life, significantly frees up energy for other processes.
16. We are all the same much more than different. The importance of personal uniqueness is greatly exaggerated and does not allow us to quickly solve our problems. All the answers and solutions have existed for a long time, and the fixation on his own uniqueness does not allow a person to push his ego where it would be useful for him to always be and without interference to perceive the reality around him with all the answers and prompts.
17. Addiction is treated with only 100% rejection. You cannot drink one glass of wine if you are an alcoholic. You shouldn't smoke sometimes if you are trying to quit. You will be twisted constantly. Ups and downs. Disruptions. In matters of psycho-energetic "hooks" there are no semitones. And this rule is unshakable for all types of dependencies.
18. The state of internal 100% readiness for change does not exist. We are always not completely ready for turns and changes. There are always good "buts" and reasons to postpone a little until a more favorable situation. It is useless to wait for an unequivocal inner agreement, you need to decide, relying more on "time" than on ephemeral readiness.
19. Life is a book whose first chapters were not written by you. Yes, and subsequent ones too, most often.
We consist of beliefs and models of the world around us, and this world is not an abstract planet Earth, but a very specific entrance, office, house - a place where we spend time. These are friends, colleagues, parents, and shop assistants that you come across every night. This is a feed on social networks and the so-called Facebook friends. We absorb views, positions, points of view simply automatically, we breathe them in with air and become the same or vice versa opposite, which is also an automatic moment of denial. In childhood, this process is completely uncontrollable. The essence of our personality was collected by other people and the conscious parental contribution (if any) does not prevail there. According to some psychologists, what we consider ourselves and what we must be afraid of losing is just a mosaic from our environment to one degree or another. Nothing to lose. Great news in my opinion. You can redraw everything in any direction.
20. The result is the number of attempts. Not one well-aimed shot. And certainly not luck in the long run.
21. What helped you at one stage may turn out to be a brake on reaching the next. The ability to make drastic changes is characterized by the ability to refuse. But not only from what bothers you. Sometimes it is very important to give up what helped you in the past. A simple example: Small business rules don't work on average. It is impossible to grow without giving up some of them, even if they raised the process yesterday. It is the same with the human personality - its attitudes, plans.
22. Behind the comfort zone is the discomfort zone. Not a box of chocolates.
23. There is no life without purpose. As well as states without change. The only question is: do you set these goals yourself or leave them at the mercy of instincts (unconscious goals).
24. Laziness does not exist. There are unloved activities, lack of energy and lack of large-scale vision to take your breath away from the opening perspectives. But there is no laziness.
25. It is impossible to find oneself, one can only create oneself. There is nothing and no one to look for. You are always here and now. And your path is what is under your feet at this particular second, nothing more. That very "own" path differs from what it is not only the fact of awareness of the walker, who makes even small, but quite tangible goals. When these goals are defined by other people or they sprout chaotically through the word "must" - there is no way, there is a set of motley restless episodes.
26. Alcohol is not needed. Generally.
27. Unrealized potential hurts. And it is useless to hide from this fact in the chosen level of comfort or beautiful philosophical concepts, the same stories about femininity, motherhood, and so on. Each talent will be asked of us.
28. Banks should pay you, not you. This is the only possible financial health. You should never ever ever buy something that you have not earned. Never. In any case, if you dream of major changes. We pay the bank not only with money, but also with our free energy. There is practically no room for risk and adventurous progress. A breakthrough from such a state (especially to a new financial level) is hardly possible.
29. Two abilities that need to be mastered as early as possible: the ability to strain and the ability to relax.
Any movement requires effort at one time or another. If you go to it reluctantly, out of need, twice as much energy will be spent. Part on the effort itself, the rest on mental stress. To the inner struggle. Hence the need to learn to strain at will, to love your effort. With the ability to strain voluntarily, seeing this as an extremely positive aspect, the amount of effort expended will be reduced significantly. It will get bigger and easier. And the ability to relax - to accept reality as it is, to let go of your own expectations, unleashing internal knots and relieving bodily tension - is the second wing, without which you cannot advance far on one tension.
30. Two answers to be learned as early as possible: "Yes" and "No". Saying "Yes" to situations and people despite the lack of guarantees, complete internal readiness and various external circumstances. And to say "No" first of all to yourself - to your weaknesses, fears and inner licentiousness. And only far later - to other people.
31. Cool things differ from good things in the ability of the one who does to forget himself. The Creator differs from a person who does something well by putting the matter above himself, dissolving his ego in the process. And he does it consciously and lovingly, and not out of a lack of choice or a sense of duty. So one marketer can be a true musician in the profession, while another musician remains the one who deals with music for life.
32. Every sign you meet on the way always has at least 3 interpretations. 1. Maybe this is really a sign! 2. Maybe you are delusional and pull facts by the ears. 3. Or maybe this test is a phenomenon opposite to the sign - an attempt to divert from the chosen path, as a test of the sincerity of your decision and the strength of your intention.
The author of the article is Olesya Novikova