Mental traps are “knurled” and habitual paths along which our thought painfully and ineffectually moves, burning incredible volumes of our time, sucking out energy and not creating any value either for ourselves or for anyone else.
The first of the mental traps. Stubbornness should not be confused with stubbornness. Its essence lies in the fact that we are continuing a business that is deliberately doomed to failure or does not give us the former pleasure. We do what has long been irrelevant, and we cannot stop, because "we need to finish it" or "well, do not throw it away." A stupid waste of your time and energy.
Examples: Watching an uninteresting film; wanting to stop doing something, but not knowing what to do instead.
This is a mental trap that we find ourselves in when we put more effort than necessary to achieve a goal, as if we are trying to kill a fly with a sledgehammer - perfectionism.
Examples: Doing something without a purpose; memorize your speech.
When fixing, our progress towards the goal is blocked. We cannot start or continue the business we have begun until we wait for a phone call, permission, inspiration. Instead of turning to other cases, we remain in limbo until we can continue working on the same project again.
Examples: Keep track of how long before the appointment; do something just to be busy.
Sometimes it becomes obvious that our plans have definitely failed. The game is over, we have lost, time has passed. The consequences of failure can be frightening, but nothing can be done about it, but if at this stage we are still worried about the same problem, then we are trapped in a reversion. When we reverse, we try to change the irreversible past.
Examples: Ashamed that we did not achieve the goal; talk about what it would be like if we won.
Getting ahead is a mental trap that we fall into by starting too early. When we get ahead of the action, we often overwork and waste when the same result can be achieved more easily.
Examples: Prepare several versions of one letter, report, start solving a problem without having received all the conditions, tasks.
Sometimes it happens that we are required to change the course of our actions, even if we are already busy with something quite useful or pleasant. The doorbell rings at the very moment when we reach the most interesting place in the movie that we are watching. Or the alarm goes off and we don't want to get up. In all these cases, the moment comes when you need to switch your attention. But if at this point in time and space we continue to stubbornly cling to the previous occupations, then we fall into the trap of resistance.
Resistance is a "just a little bit more" disease. Unwillingness to change the course of action, under the influence of external circumstances.
Examples: Immerse yourself in the game so much that you forget about everything else; cost plans and then be forced to adjust them.
It often happens like this: we have definitely decided on some business, but it is difficult for us to get down to it. We postpone for later, invent insignificant cases in order to postpone the implementation of unpleasant duties. Our mind simply refuses to get right down to business. Procrastination, or procrastination, is one of the biggest problems in business and life.
Examples: Linking one case to another and making them dependent on each other; make promises to yourself and others; procrastinate.
We fall into the mental trap of separation when we try to do two things at the same time. We talk with someone, listening half-heartedly, while in our minds we try to solve a financial problem that haunts us.
Attention is indivisible by definition. To work means to work, to communicate means to communicate. When in conversation we think about work and when at work we think about communication, all we do is think.
Examples: Being in the present, but thinking about the future and the past; having sex and thinking about the color of the ceiling.
Our personality is subject to absolutely all mental traps, some to a greater extent, some to a lesser extent, since it is formed by our ego-mind.
Until you get rid of the control of this ego mind, the traps will arise over and over again.
You should not be afraid that by getting rid of the control of the ego-mind, you will become an incomprehensible who, on the contrary, you will become free, including from any mental garbage and traps.