Statistical studies have shown that people remember up to 85–90 percent of all the details at which their first kiss happened. At the same time, 2-3 times less details of the death and funeral of parents, loss of virginity or the birth of their first child remain in memory.
1. There are three theories of the origin of the kiss.
According to the first, the root cause of kissing is motherhood. When the child threw the breast, but could not yet bite and chew solid food on his own, the mother did it for him, turning the food into a liquid gruel, and then passing it on to her offspring, so to speak, from mouth to mouth. Then this action began to play the role of a pacifier: in order to deceive and calm the child, the mother simply touched her lips to his lips, imitating the feeding process. As a result, the touching of the lips with the lips acquired the meaning of tenderness and affection.
The second theory sees the kiss as a simple imitation of animals. For example, to birds that, during mating dances, among other manipulations, touch each other with their beaks (hence - “they have mercy like doves”). Or - "kissing fish" gourami. True, in gourami, in fact, this is not at all a manifestation of tenderness: this is how males fight for territory and females. They simply measure their mouths: whoever has it less, he ingloriously leaves the "battlefield".
The third theory claims that the kiss of our distant ancestors implied peaceful intentions: the touch of outstretched lips instead of a fierce grin of teeth ready to grab the enemy's throat.
2. All these theories, each of which is effective and convincing in its own way, break, however, about one inexplicable phenomenon - the behavior of chimpanzees. These distant relatives of ours touchingly, quite humanly, embrace the neck of the one they love, and press their lips to it. And not a single zoopsychologist is able to explain where such a manifestation of tenderness comes from.
3. The first written evidence of a kiss in human history goes back to Persian inscriptions, which are about 4 thousand years old. In the 5th century BC, Herodotus also mentions the kiss and also in connection with the Persians. True, this is not quite the kiss. "Among the Persians, " writes Herodotus, "men equal in social status, when they meet, kiss each other on the mouth, and unequal men kiss each other on the cheek."
4. The habit of kissing reached its highest peak among the ancient Romans. Everyone kissed: men, women, children, relatives, acquaintances and barely acquaintances; kissed everywhere: at home, on the streets and in public places. They smeared their lips with a special aromatic lipstick to make kissing more pleasant. In short, it took on the character of madness, and Emperor Tiberius, by special decree, reduced this kissing epidemic to a reasonable size.
5. The terrible epidemics of plague and smallpox in Europe, which claimed the lives of almost half of the continent's population, have made adjustments to ancient traditions. By the era of the Renaissance, completely new forms of etiquette appeared: a deep bow with the waving of the hat in front of you (then this turned into a slight bow and a simple touch of the hat); kiss of a woman's hand in a glove (then it turned into a light shake and tilt of the head over the hand); men had a handshake when meeting and saying goodbye; finally, there was a "kiss".
6. In 1896, the film The Kiss was shown in New York. The reaction to it can only be compared with a 12-point hurricane. This is what the New York Times wrote after that: “Enlarged to Gargantua's proportions, this disgusting sight evokes nothing but a feeling of nausea. Immediate police intervention is all that is required. "
7. In the thirties, an iron limit was established in Hollywood: the duration of a kiss should not exceed three seconds, those who kiss should have stood firmly on the ground (no hanging on the neck, frivolous lifting of the leg). However, very soon “kissing dissidents” appeared again - Cary Grant and Clark Gable. And they, of course, were imitated by all the other actors.