A spoiled child is a real headache for parents.
Of course, many of us want to give our children everything and provide them with everything they need. But often by catering to the desires of our offspring, we risk ruining their behavior.
What needs to be done so that your child is a source of pride and does not make you blush in front of others?
These are a few tips to help you with this daunting task.
1. Learn to say no
Practice what's called deferred gratification. In other words, you don’t have to give your child what he wants every time, even if you can easily afford it.
It has been proven that children who can resist the instant gratification of their desires become more successful and purposeful in life than those who are less patient. Indulging in all momentary desires, you only reinforce the unwanted behavior in the child.
2. Expect gratitude
It’s not about teaching your child to say “thank you” and “please” thoughtlessly. It is important that he also knows how to maintain eye contact, is grateful and appreciates what is given to him or what is being shared.
If he received a gift, but did not appreciate it, ask him to politely return it to the donor or you for safekeeping, and explain that he is not ready for such gifts.
3. Show altruism yourself
Give unnecessary things and toys to those in need, and involve your children in this process. When you do it from the bottom of your heart, helping those who need it, your child will automatically adopt this behavior.
4. Don't try to shield him from any failure.
It is important for a child to learn from an early age about the natural consequences of his actions. Share your experiences and let them absorb their lessons.
Of course, if the child is in danger, we cannot stand aside and just wait for him to hit his head. But do not protect your child too much from disappointment. You need to understand and believe that setbacks and falls are part of normal childhood and development.
5. Don't buy a lot of things.
Even if you can afford to buy a lot for your child, there is no need to buy up the entire collection of dolls. Buy one doll so that the child can love and appreciate what he has. This is one of the key points to learn if you do not want to raise a spoiled child.
6. Explain your intentions to grandparents
Share with them your desire to raise a decent, kind and responsible child, and the ways in which you hope to achieve this goal.
Explain that you need their help in this matter, as most grandparents are especially diligent in trying to please their grandchildren. Ask them to pamper your children with their love, time, and attention, not toys, treats, and money.
7. Explain the value of money to your child.
Teach children how to handle money, accumulating it, giving part to others, and only then spending it on their own needs. If they learn this in an accessible way from an early age, you will lay the foundation for a responsible attitude towards money for life.
8. Tell about yourself
Tell your children about how you achieved a certain success or state.
If you have found wealth, share how you earned and kept what you have. If you are successful on your own, let them know your story. It is likely that you have learned a lot by facing various difficulties along the way, becoming who you are now.
And finally, if you think that you have a spoiled child who whines, cries and throws tantrums all the time when he doesn't get what he wants, you have no one to blame but yourself. Stop indulging in desires and start applying these principles and approaches.
This will make your life much easier, and your child will be better adapted to life and, ultimately, happier and, and there will be more peace and love in the house. And this is something that money cannot buy.