Many of us are afraid to fly in airplanes. Aerophobia (as psychologists call this phenomenon) is becoming more and more common, becoming an obstacle to a successful career, economic and even family well-being. Evolutionarily for humans, the fear of flying is justified - it is part of the instinct of self-preservation, and therefore has an adaptive function. But what if fear gets out of control and no longer preserves our normal life, but, on the contrary, destroys it? Let's try to give some tips on how to deal with this.
1. Try to understand your fear
First, try to figure out what exactly and how much you are afraid. The need to take off in the air, entrusting their lives to a winged machine, causes concern for almost everyone. But it may be a slight anxiety, which a person can easily cope with himself, or it may be a serious condition with a complex of symptoms that intensify when approaching the airport, and even forces a person to completely abandon flights. It often happens that in the second case, you cannot do without the help of a specialist. To eliminate fear, you need to understand: what kind of fear it is (fear of death, fear of heights, fear of a confined space), from what moment it appeared and what events its appearance is associated with.
2. Don't be afraid to be afraid
Yes Yes exactly. As you try to control yourself, don't be afraid to show your fear to others. Otherwise, you run the risk of aggravating the situation, adding even more psychological blocks to yourself and driving your fear deeper. And there is no need to try to fight fear - the fight involves violence, and in this case it will be active resistance to oneself. Rather, it’s right to acknowledge your right to be afraid, not letting fear affect your self-esteem, and to try to mentally separate fear from your self.
3. Trying to relax
First of all, while flying, it would be nice to have something on hand to help you relax. A dark blindfold, an inflatable pillow under your head, warm socks on your feet that allow you to take off your shoes, a soft blanket will be useful. You can take a player with soothing music with you. For some, meditation, mental recitation of prayers or breathing exercises help to achieve calmness. Oddly enough, learning how to relax is quite difficult, and therefore something purely different "works" for everyone. In any case, during the flight, it is better to give up tight clothes, accessories that hinder the movement and high heels.
4. Distraction is useful too.
Before you fly, think about what can captivate you so much that you can avoid concentrating on the hardships of the flight? This can be a new book, a fresh issue of your favorite magazine in advance, a crossword puzzle, a puzzle, and even origami. You can take a laptop with an interesting movie on board. For women, different types of handicrafts are suitable, for example, embroidery, lace weaving, drawing and collecting small mosaics: it has long been known that fine motor skills of the hands help relieve tension, and a creative attitude charges positive. And, of course, do not forget about the sweet - it is always nice to chew on something tasty.
5. Calm starts yesterday
On the eve of the flight, you should in every possible way avoid any stressful situations. It is important to pack your suitcase a couple of days before departure, having bought everything you need in advance, and go to bed early the day before. On the day of your flight, try not to be late for the airport to avoid unnecessary worries. Also, these days there is such a convenient thing as online check-in - use it by choosing the most preferable seat for you in the aircraft cabin.
6. Don't watch TV
The excess of information is the scourge of modern civilization. Television, the Internet and other media are bombarding us with so much negativity that more and more healthy people are becoming anxious and suspicious. Don't read about plane crashes, watch the news, action films and disaster movies - they won't add to your optimism. Subconscious emotions are not easy to control, and even comprehending the fact that an airplane is one of the safest modes of transport sometimes has no effect on fear. It may be worth doing extreme sports to help you switch to more positive sources of adrenaline.
7. Despite the fear, do not give up flying
Facing the object of fear face to face is one of the methods of "shock" psychotherapy of neuroses. If you are trying to overcome aerophobia and it is not neglected, you should not quit flying. Thus, safely spending more and more hours in the sky, you will have a chance to knock down the stereotype of a situation that causes panic.
8. Get a talisman
Smiled? Now, seriously: get a talisman, amulet, or something that can protect you by virtue of your beliefs. Make it a rule to always take this item with you in flight. It is better to have several of them - if you forget one at home, the others will be with you. It is also worth finding out what exactly calms you on board the aircraft most of all, and taking these things with you constantly, as if turning it into a ritual - after all, a regularly repeated pattern of events from childhood causes most people to feel stability and security.
9. Alcohol will only hurt
Do not drink alcohol before or during the flight. In addition to troubles with the transport police, alcohol can cause problems with the cardiovascular, nervous and other body systems. A small dose of alcohol will not help you relax, and a large dose will only add troubles. The same is the case with sedatives - they make a person sluggish, but do not relieve anxiety. Exceptions are drugs specially prescribed by a doctor. Also, do not take large amounts of cola, coffee, tea or energy drinks - they have an aphrodisiac effect and provoke swelling. It is best to drink mineral water, lemon water, or herbal tea in moderation.
10. See a psychologist
In the case of pronounced aerophobia, a person can lose control not only over his emotional reactions, but also over his body - the heartbeat increases, stiffness, sweating, skin redness, dizziness, and sometimes narrowing of consciousness appear. In such cases, it is necessary to resort to the help of specialists. Psychologists successfully fight fears, using all sorts of methods - some people respond positively to beliefs and facts, others are helped by auto-training, others need psychoanalysis or various methods of dealing with neuroses. Specialists find out the reason, the nature of fear, and select an individual plan for working with the patient in accordance with his personality type.